Exercise: Breakup security blanket
The breakup security blanket is here to help you communicate your feelings clearly and directly, even when under pressure and during your breakup.
In step 1 you downloaded and completed a document that allowed you to get your reasoning for ending the relationship down on paper. In this exercise I want you to narrow down those reasons to the main few.
The goal here isn’t to go into your breakup chat with a massive list of all the things that were wrong with your relationship, all you want is a fundamental sect a few things that were the main deal breakers and its these points you are going to remember and fall back on if you mind should go blank. and again these are not attacks they are I statements issues you have and the way you feel
Now that you have the main reasons I want you to either embed them in your memory so that you are able to recall them under stress or jot them down somewhere private, perhaps a note on your phone.
This list will be your breakup security blanket and you may need it during step 7 which is the breakup itself.
Make sure this list can’t be found by anyone and delete it after your breakup, this is a list for your eyes only and could be very hurtful if leaked to others.
do not get pushed into listing off reasons, its ok to have a few and stick to them, this is the 21st century and long gone are the days when you have to stick to a relationship cause its good for the kids or a god insists, this is all about your happiness you have one life and the world around you including children will easily adapt to your changes, what I can assure you because I have been there is that growing up in a household where your parents are miserable is far more damaging than growing up with separated parents, teach thoughts kids strength and to obtain happiness and not to settle or take the easy route.